I often ponder the question, “what makes a great leader?”. This is a question that I’ll probably never answer because there isn’t really just one good answer. Jacob Morgan, author of The Future Leader, asked hundreds of leaders what their definition of leadership was, and all came up with different answers, and all of them right. There’s no doubt that themes emerge about the foundation and core competencies of good leadership. However, a big part of leadership is unique to each individual and the experiences that shape them. Its these experiences that make leaders authentically who they are. The more they are used to distill meaning and purpose, the more powerful they become. One such kind of experience has been called “crucible experiences”. Researchers Warren G. Bennis and Robert J. Thomas write about it in their article “Crucibles of Leadership.”
Defining Crucible Experiences:
A crucible experience is an intense, transformative event or period in our lives that demands our utmost emotional, mental, and sometimes physical fortitude. It often involves a significant personal or professional setback, loss, failure, or a life-altering decision. Crucible experiences push us beyond our comfort zones, challenging our existing beliefs, assumptions, and capabilities. They can arise from various sources, such as a career setback, a health crisis, the end of a relationship, or a profound personal loss.
Elaine Macy, one of our guests on The Travel Leader Podcast, recalled an early experience of hers that had shaped her as a person and as a leader. In our episode together, she described how one day her husband up and left her with nothing more than a can of soup in the cabinet.
The Significance of Crucible Experiences:
While crucible experiences can be daunting and distressing, they also offer remarkable opportunities for growth and self-discovery. These challenging moments force us to confront our fears, face our vulnerabilities, and question our beliefs. They act as catalysts for transformation, pushing us to redefine our priorities, reassess our values, and learn valuable lessons about ourselves and the world around us. Crucible experiences have the power to reshape our lives and bring forth qualities such as resilience, adaptability, and empathy.
Elaine Macy’s story illustrates how crucible experiences can be turned into powerful agency. She tells how she had to make a conscious choice on how she was going to continue her life after her husband left. The set back not only drove her to succeed in life and her career, but also has fueled her purpose to mentor and empower the young women who have come across her path.
Crucible experiences may test our limits and push us to the edge of our comfort zones, but they hold immense potential for personal growth and transformation. By embracing these challenges with resilience, a growth mindset, and a support system, we can emerge stronger, wiser, and more compassionate individuals. Embracing crucible experiences not only allows us to overcome obstacles but also helps us discover our inner strength, refine our purpose, and lead a more fulfilling life. Remember, it is within the crucible that diamonds are forged.
Rachel Vandenberg is a leadership coach living in Stowe, Vermont with her husband and three children. Rachel also owns and operates a hotel and attractions property with her family. She sits on the board of the local tourism association and also created a leadership retreat for women leaders in travel.